Healing is a Sacred hoice

 

When relationships end, I discovered that one of the options we are not readily presented with is the choice of healing. More often than not, we are advised to mourn. To mourn the loss of a wonderful time, shared moments and memories with someone we once loved. 

We are allowed to grieve even our conscious and unconscious contributions to the end of what was once beautiful. In all of these misery, healing is never presented as an option. It is never really talked about, because we think healing is rooted in mourning. Yet, on the contrary they are two separate phases.

Mourning is consuming and requires so much audience to feel better. In mourning we call on friends, family and well wishers to be at our side. To share in the burden to endure the nostalgic episodes that leave us in catharsis. In mourning, we are performing not with intention for attracting attention, but because the pain just calls for participation.

With healing it is different. In instances where some have had wise counsel who presented them the choice of healing. Healing has been known to be the hardest lone internal battle anyone can face.

Healing becomes a choice when you chose it and when you do, it alters everything. It brings about a reset. It detoxifies, purges and makes the heart an empty corridor. 

Think of a vacant white room with a bed and shiny tiled floors that have just been mopped. This is what healing looks like. The floor of your heart is slippery, wet, still rife with wounds, but clean from footprints and germs. You have to turn on the fan, close the room and hang onto your bed as the air dries up the wet floor. In this moment, you are all alone. It is you waiting still for the floor to dry so you don't leave footprints that are most times dirty on them. 

In healing you are not hosting a call for communion. In healing you are in solitude, in contrition in quiet penance allowing time do it's work. You are not recanting or rehearsing what could have been, you are instead accepting the present for what it is.

Healing is a choice that should be chosen if anyone is desirous for a new beginning. Certainly, not many people want to begin again but it is always the best decision to chose healing for the need to have a heart that is not messed up by footprints it cannot recognize.

To choose healing is to chose liberation, to master quiet confidence in forgiving oneself, in learning that you have the power to change what wasn't and to control what you no longer wish to entertain.

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If these words stirred something within you, pause. Take a deep breath. You don’t have to rush through your pain, but you can begin to choose healing, even in the smallest ways.

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