Ego in Relationships

Ego is the birth child of pride.

It gives the person who possesses it an overly superior feeling that he is above and beyond the other.

In relationships, ego has been identified as the number one killer that sets in and destroys all that has been built from the onset of the relationship. Ego creates a void and establishes a distance between partners which overtime would grow into dislike and a possible end of the relationship. It allows for mistrust and loyalty becomes far-fetched.

 The ego driven partner begins to look down on the other thereby making the other partner feel less.
When ego sets in, caution is thrown to the wind. One partner begins to say if she does not greet me first I would not greet her and vice versa. It can also take on another outlook where one person thinks that without him the other person would be incomplete.

Ego has never helped any situation, often times when ego sets in it's as a result of the fact that the other feels he has been taken for granted for too long.

In a situation where a relationship might be experiencing tough times it is advised that one of the partners becomes a bigger person by shelving their ego away and allowing for reason to prevail.

When there's quality communication between partners in a relationship, the possibility of ego arising becomes very slim. So whatever may be the situation at the moment in your relationship, it is time to put your ego aside and handle issues decisively.

Be the bigger person, skip the 'e' and let it 'go'.

- Francisca O. Okwulehie