WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS.

  

       Today unlike yesterday am inspired to write on an issue that reverberates with so many of us these days.Quite a lot of people can be seen to be struggling with their insecunties Almost Everyone is playing the comparison game. "Oh Ada! of yesterday works in Shell" , "Oh John of those days is now a Bank manager" ,that air head in college won a scholarship to study overseas, And the list goes on.
       

We are so quick to notice what's working for others and what is going wrong for us.Especially with people we must have underestimated a very longtime ago,we become awed at their progress and new found success. The comparison game is even more annoying and depressing especially in this age of modern technology and smart communication platforms.If Facebook isn't bringing the news of Ada, then it's Twitter or instagram et al.

       It's true that when you pause to have a look down memory lane, this people who seem to be doing better now were no way your match many years back.But in the words of Theodore Roosevelt "Comparison is the thief of joy".When you begin to compare yourself with/to others you in no time loose the will power to pursue your own goals and sooner or later you realise you have lost it,your esteem and you're heading down the slope of failure. 

       Even Bill Gates attests to the comparison game as insulting, he says " Do not compare yourself with anyone in this world... if you do so,you are insulting yourself. 

     Until we realise that we are who we are our own version and edition, we would never stop at nothing to keep comparing ourselves with another .As much as we think of why we are not doing as fine as the other person, it's time we started looking at our strengths and not our weakness. 

    The mistake so many of us make,is that we are always quick to itemize the strengths of others, when we ought to look inward of us and discover our strengths,which we know none of these people we compare with ourselves can beat us to. 

    It is therefore important to notice that nobody has it all.But through contentment we derive joy even in the midst of the emptiness that may surround us.
Comparison leads to competition and competition fuelled by comparison never yields positive results. Instead it brings about depression, frustration, disappointment, envy and inferiority complex. When you begin to compare yourself to others it in no time becomes chronic and you become restless and it becomes obvious to people around that you are not at peace. 

     Hence, if we must compare ourself with anybody it should be the person we see in the mirror when we look at our reflection. 

"The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday."