VALENTINE, THE EXPECTATIONS AND REALITY CHECKS.

Feburary14th of any year is known to be Valentine’s Day; a day set aside to celebrate love in most part of the world. Most times we refer to a child born on that day as a love child. For many, Valentine’s Day is a day to show loved ones or your lover all the care, affection and attention in the world.
While for some it’s a day to frolic, flirt and unwind promiscuously with no holds barred. The sad truth about Valentine’s day is that while some hearts will be serenaded with joy, others might end up sad with no romantic telltale or wonderful experience to share about a much talked about and over rated day.
Some expectations will be met while others while be denied.

Expectation 1: The feeling of love will so much intoxicate almost anyone in a relationship whether it’s a serious relationship, complicated or freelance one.

Expectation 2: Too many people will go out of their way to profess love that does and does not exist to their partners.

Expectation 3: Oh! There will be gifts of all sorts roses, perfumes, teddy bears, exotic wines, cars, luxury wristwatches to mention a few.

Expectation 4: Yes, great sex like always or like never before.

Expectation 5: The anxious lady who wishes to be proposed to on that day and for the very creative partners who might chose to propose to their partners/lovers on the same day.

Expectation 6: You might also get the chance to meet his Mama/Papa or some great family dinner that says “you are welcome to our family”.

Expectation 7: As an expectant mum your due date is feb 15 and you wish your baby will come earlier on the 14th.

Now away from the expectations the reality and the heart of the matter would be.

Reality Check 1: Most people in relationships might not necessarily be in love on Valentine ’s Day. They would rather go with the crowd and do the same thing of sending text messages, booking reservations at restaurants, hotels and resorts.

Reality Check 2: There will be too many promises of love that will be broken even before 12pm of that day.

Reality Check 3: For some the many gifts of love might not be sincere as some partners might not spend the day with their true spouses but with their side partners (what I like to call freelancers). Hence the need to placate their real spouses/lovers with gifts.

Reality Check4: Yes, Sex will sell at its best on that day. While some may have themselves to blame, cause they may get more than they bargained for.

Reality Check 5: For the one who is expecting a ring on that finger truth is if it’s going to happen dear it will. You just might get the shock of your life as the Original madam you knew not may get the ring. So then the wheat is separated from the shaft. Lol!

Reality Check 6: Good for you if you meet his Mama/Sister and they love you.

Reality Check 7: So if the baby comes 12pm feb 14th fine, what a stroke of luck and if he comes earlier than the14th not bad either.

It’s usually expected to have a Val/Valentine and most times this could be your lover or husband. But over time people have come to understand that your valentine does not necessarily have to be your lover or spouse, such person could be your dad, mum, sister, brother, that little child who lives down the street that runs errands for you most times or the woman who sells petty goods on the bridge or children in the orphanages/ old people in the hospice or even your pet (e.g your Dog).Well yes!

On this note I end this piece of expectations and reality check by wishing everyone a splendid valentine. And perhaps, do I advise you don’t expect too much but give as much as your heart wills you to. Remember valentine should be every day.
LOVE, HUGS AND HAPPINESS FOR THE ROAD. CHEERS!


Francisca Okwulehie.