Francisca Ogechi Okwulehie

  When relationships end, I discovered that one of the options we are not readily presented with is the choice of healing. More often than not, we are advised to mourn. To mourn the loss of a wonderful time, shared moments and memories with someone we once loved.  We are allowed to grieve even our conscious and unconscious contributions to the end of what was once beautiful. In all of these misery, healing is never presented as an option. It is never really talked about, because we think healing is rooted in mourning. Yet, on the contrary they are two separate phases. Mourning is consuming and requires so much audience to feel better. In mourning we call on friends, family and well wishers to be at our side. To share in the burden to endure the nostalgic episodes that leave us in catharsis. In mourning, we are performing not with intention for attracting attention, but because the pain just calls for participation. With healing it is different. In instances where some have had...